autism and asperger

august 25 2007

As expected: today was tense because the boys had to get used to school and now they have time to let the stress come out.

And on top the trip to the hospital of one of the boys.
(It ended well. He feels a lot better and looks better too.)

In the afternoon my autistic boy got a meltdown, after a whole morning and half an afternoon of complaining and moaning.
He got suspicious of a lot of things... which is for me a signal that a meltdown is on his way.

The oldest tried to please him by redoing a bit of wiring on their room, which included a 5 minute break in internetconnection.
I though it wouldn't be a problem after all the bad connections of the last weeks.

Wrong mamma, wrong!

He had a fullblown meltdown... boy, what can that kid scream!

The oldest came down and added to it, and dad was of no help either.

They're were lucky I had a large bucket of laundry in the middle of the room, otherwise I might not have considered, but just would have called psychiatry to collect one of them.
Now I just started to fold the laundry complaining that they never help, they never care and they just use me as their maid. "I have to do everything, they just don't care for other people."

The trick worked... "Can I help", "I can help"...

It's the trick I used when they were two, and it still works. LOL!

Had a conversation with the oldest later.
He can't say farewell to his anger so easy.
So he told me I should put his brother in an institution.
When I said he was the same at that age, he saw no other way than telling me I should have put him away too.

"Well, I wanted you to come as far as you are now, so you can choose your own furniture. You get your own room, and you are learning to become your own boss.
I wanted you to make your own choices and I have supported you as far as it was wise to do so.

"Well, I didn't want to go to the traininghouse".

... I walked outside his room...

There is just soooo much I can take....