Laane on the World

a letter from school again

2008-09-04T13:26:00.002+02:00

september 4 2008

Yesterday I finally got a mail from the school where my autistic boy is forced to be subscribed to.

He should go to an auti-class, but there's not enough place for all children.

The school we're dealing with now has caused him to get worse, loose his interest and motivation to study. They didn't even give one reaction when he dropped out.
He was traumatised by that school, and now we have to deal with it again.

It disgusts me.

So I got a letter.
Without the logo of the school. Maybe it was expected I would throw it in the bin. LOL!

I was told that I should teach him at home and follow the program from last year.
In october all will be avaluated and it will be decided if he's going to be atmitted to the exam.

Are they nuts???

Or is it a solo flight of that very inconsiderate coordinator again? The man who told us over and over again he knew everything about autism and how it's caused by bad upbringing. Ugh!

I mailed him asking whether the council representative agrees with his proposition.

No answer yet.

I had a fresh look at internet again and found a law which states how schools should deal with ill children.
Goooood!

I knew it was somewhere, but couldn't find it before.

So that's another letter which should be written, telling him that we want to wait untill the careorganisations I spoke to last week have made a decision about my boys education. (See here.)

The rest will pop up in my mind when I'm writing.

No rest for the wicked! LOL!

paling because of Palin: a mom about a mom

2008-09-03T09:34:00.005+02:00

september 3 2008

It's always the same with the american republicans.
You just have to wait untill another scandal develops on the scene as yet another example of the way republicans deal with life.
How it works?
Just wait, then try to limit the drama by doing some damage control.

A baby born of an unknown mother?
It might be mom, it might be daughter who gave birth...
Look how welcome the baby is in the family.

And , no... it can't be the daughter's baby, because the daughter is 5 months pregnant.
Well she wouldn't be the first one dealing with a few extra weeks to hush up all the gossip, and when you're 17 and too stupid to get pregnant, you can be as stupid to get pregnant again right after the delivery. It happens.

But beside this speculations, even from my site, there's another matter I'm not seeing adressed.
Maybe to keep the feminists on the voting list.
Or maybe people are still too indulged into the delights of a family where abortion of a down-syndrome baby didn't take place, like it's a virtue of some kind.
It was their choice, or maybe they didn't know, or maybe they just blindly followed the rules of the religion.

Or maybe because no one dares to say something about it.

Well, I want to and I will, because I was a mom choossing fully for my special needs kids. I gave up the limelight and the glory of a nice carreer for my children, because I acknowledged my motherly feelings.

Why doesn't Mrs. Palin take care of her down-syndrome kid?
Has she already given up to support his development with love and daily care?

When we speak about moral values we should certainly take into account that making the decision to give birth to a child with down syndrome, any special needs baby for that matter, also comes with the responsibility of taking care for this child.

How on earth can Mrs. Palin make clear to the world that she can give her full 100% to the baby and the full 100% to her campaign and work?

It makes me wonder whether John McCain had no better candidate to fit the list of requirements for a good vice-president, or whether he wanted to divert the attention away from himself.
Before Mrs. Palin entered the stage it was fully clear that McCain couldn't compete with Obama.
He's old, not healthy and the expectancies are that he won't serve a full term in reasonable health. Some people are even afraid of the lack of expression on his face, the lack of flexibility and creativity.
It might be that old heroes never die, but time moves on and the country requires someone who is able to adapt not only to the world of today and tomorrow, but who is also able to oversee the consequences of his own choices.

McCain clearly wasn't able to.

Ofcourse some of Hillary Clinton's followers will blindly choose another woman.
They're not wise enough to see that politics has nothing to do with race, gender or hairdo
But now another group is put to the test.
Those who applaude at a woman who (presumably) gave birth to a special needs child and leaves it in the hands of others to nurture it, love it, raise it and help it find a place in this world.
The next years it won't be mom who embraces and hugs it, because she wants to be vice-president and even wants to become president.

The last years America had to deal with loss of prestige in the world, and had to deal with a bad image.
I'm not sure whether the world wants to deal with a vice president who doesn't even care enough for her own child.

list of 3

2008-09-03T09:15:00.003+02:00

september 3 2008

TAILS
List three things from any category

Hmmmm.... let's see.

3 things that need to be done the next days before they're forgotten:

Get my meds on a repeat prescription

Buy a cardigan for one of the twins. She's growing so fast!

Make appointments at the dentist.

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spiders!!!

2008-09-02T14:48:00.003+02:00

september 2 2008

It's that time of year again.

I don't know where they come from, and I don't know what they've eated all summer.
Sure not only flies alone.

They must have eaten complete cows, horses and now and then a rhinoceros, otherwise I can't explain why they're so HUGE!!!

Arghhhhhhhhhh!!!!

I want to put up signs at the doors with: no spiders allowed.
They should know this is my house.
I have claimed this bit of ground to feel safe and happy, and instead I have to fight for my territory with spiders. Ugh!!

Wish I had some spider traps.
I have to send one of the children to get some, or order them online.

I hate spiders!!!!

Manic Monday #132

2008-09-01T11:28:00.003+02:00

september 1 2008

If you were to name the one thing you have the most compassion for, what would it be?
Saying: my children, is too straightforward.

So it's music.
Either singing, listening or making music myself.
Right now I'm teaching myself some nice jazzy songs.
Well, I like them. They have passion, energy and that melodic characteristics that make real jazzy songs so easy to improvise with.

It's been said that, "The best things in life are free." Do you think this is true?

No... not really.
Maybe it's partly true, because nature is free, and nature is among the best.

Last night I sniffed some fresh air near the lake, trying out walking on my taped foot.
The stars were twinkling and the sky was lit by faraway high sky lightning.
It was absolutely wonderful and I would have liked to lay down in the grass and sleep there.

What is the most valuable thing you own?

The photos of my dead babies.

Moneywise it's my highland bagpipes.

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Free radicals? No, a laxative.

2008-09-01T11:21:00.003+02:00

september 1 2008

Yesterday evening I was served a glass of juice.
"Lots of free radicals", I was told.

The package showed a lovely picture and ofcourse a nice list of at the good ingredients.

I was told it would help me feel better...

Yea....

And how!

I've been running too and fro the rest of the evening, night and morning.

That one glass acts like an enormous laxative.

I'm not showing a rash, otherwise I would have thought I'm allergic to something in the juice.

Annoying callers? Share your info.

2008-09-01T02:01:00.004+02:00

september 1 2008

As a psychologist I've had my share of late evening calls.
Some clients needed a friendly word before the night, I guess.

The last months telemarketers have found my phonenumber attractive. They've been calling at dinnertime, at coffeetime and at other inconvenient moments.
Especially now I can't walk well it's a burden to deal with them.

On top of it there's someone calling me several times a day saying nothing or asking for Mary.
Under normal circumstances telling the person the calls are logged stops the person from calling again, but this person just goes on and on.

A friend told me about the site: AnnoyingCallers.com.
It's a database of phonenumbers with information about the contect of annoying calls.
I've found out I'm not the only one dealing with this, just by entering the phone number in the searchbox.

I think the site is very helpfull, because listing these phonenumbers and sharing information might enable to reveal the true identity of the callers.

a warm sunday in august

2008-08-31T23:55:00.003+02:00

august 31 2008

It was supposed to be a very hot day, but it wasn't the hottest day of summer at all.
A soft breeze colled everything down.
Yet it was humid enough to feel uncomfortable.

The girls packed their bags for school for the first time.
They need to take far too many books.
Especially the little one carries too much weight.
Maybe I'd better look into the question whether she can get a second set of books to leave at school.

Their anticipation for real lessons is so sweet to see.
They've been to a montessori-school, so they've never had group lessons.

Tomorrow I'll start homeschooling my autistic boy.
We're not allowed to homeschool, our kids, but I do and I'm OK when they'll bring me to court.
The system doesn't have a place for him... yet...

In the afternoon we're going to his psychiatrist.
I'm curious about his therapy-plans.

unconscious mutterings 292

2008-08-31T13:50:00.000+02:00

august 31 2008

Groceries :: With a family of 8 I need loads of them.

Deodorant :: Axe is not a deodorant, it's a nose-killer. It stinks!!!

Psychic :: You mean paranormal?

Cherries :: Lovely olor

Spooky :: halloween

Yogurt :: with strawberries

Kitchen :: clean it yourself!

Nothing personal :: no...but you needed to say it, so it has a message..

Be nice :: smile!

Delivery :: giving birth... I know all about it.

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Just a sunday morning thought

2008-08-31T10:55:00.003+02:00

august 31 2008

It´ll be one of the warmest days of the year, so I had the windows open all night and closed them as soon as the sun hit the house.
Hopefully that´ll keep the cool temperature in.

While hanging the laundry on the line I heard an ambulance nearby, and about half an hour later another one.
That´s quite unusual as we don´t live near the central post at all.

We did in the past.
Our student homes are near the firebrigade´s post, and during day and night we heard the cars leaving with full sound.
We got used to it. But considering the fact that the conversations at our place often were about term life insurance, our visitors were confronted with thoughts about illness and death far more consciously than we.

The sound of the ambulance makes me think for a moment.

But as soon as I see a shining full ripe bramble my thought are gone.

I can tell you....that bramble was very tasty!
I´m sure I can enjoy more this evening.

forgotten key

2008-08-29T14:11:00.002+02:00

august 29 2008

She's ome of those people who tends to forget everything and who's always able to mobilise the helptroops.

Not today!

I can barely walk, let alone go upstairs and search her room for the key.

It can be in the trousers she was wearing yesterday... maybe they are on the chair, or maybe in the bathroom...
or it can be in a bag she used yesterday... but she doesn't remember which one she was using...
or it can be on the desk...or downstairs...or...

My conclusion is simple:

As the key can be anywehere it can be in the bag she has with her... or in her coat... or in the trousers she's wearing...

So she has to deal with it herself.

Even when I find the keys she won't have me bycicling through half the town to bring it to her.

I know...I'm a bad mother.
But I'm very happy to enable her to learn to take of her own things.

I'm very generous!

broken foot

2008-08-29T13:17:00.001+02:00

august 29 2008

Finally made an appointment with my doctor.

I had to wait a complete hour in the waitingroom, with a man who was sighing every one and a half minute! Ugh!

The most terribele magazines I've seen, and the most beautiful fashion.
I even forgot the time for about 5 minutes reading about a northpole expedition.

I'm completely up to date now about best acne treatment, the benefits of swimming (well, I knew that anyway) and I know where in town to find sportfacilities for seniors.

It's not often that I spend my time feeling bored to death.

I will do just that however for more time this afternoon.

The doc expects one of the bones in my foot to be broken, so I need to go to hospital for an x-ray. And then to the emergency room to get it taken care of.

What a waste of the day!!!

finally some help

2008-08-28T23:25:00.005+02:00

august 28 2008

The supportsystem and the educational system is divided into sections.

One of the sections is for high intelligent autistic kids,
and the other for low intelligent ones and longterm ill children.

My autistic son is high in intelligence and longterm ill.

So I sat at the meeting and gave a resume of the situation:
"He won't get help, because he doesn't fit in anywhere."

Then I sat backwards...
"So that is the end of a long way of finding him a place somewhere in the educational system."

It was the breaking point.

After some silence both women looked at each other and then decided he will be point of focus in the next meeting of both departments.

When everything works out he'll get a tutor at home.

If not, I have used the last resource.

I smiled when I went away, but that was all I could produced: a smile.
I'm too tired of it all... so tired I lost my way out and had to ask a secretary to tell me where I could leave the building. LOL!

fashion, pregnancy and breastfeeding

2008-08-28T16:43:00.007+02:00

august 28 2008

Many years I've been a pregnancy gymnastics teacher.
Most of the time I took the high risk moms-to-be.

Because there's a shortage of teachers I was asked to attend a meeting today, to decide how many times I would give lessons and information about the delivery, breastfeeding and pre- and postnatal care.

To my surprise I was welcomed by one of the other teachers, wearing an essential short sleeve wrap dress from Due.

I recognised the fashionable dress from the online collection of Due.

Soon we were talking about me taking on her lessons for the next year, and ofcourse about the activewear Due provides.

We all decided we won't accept people attending classes in old male joggingsuits anymore, now there are workout outfits available that are not only very convenient to wear, but will also last during the time of breastfeeding and long after that.
No tight cords around the belly anymore, but cotton/lycra that moves with the body.

We're advising our pregnant moms to visit the site of Due maternity clothes and also have a look at the other products like skin care, diaper bags and gifts.

I especially want to focus the attention on nursing bras, as Due has not only a great collection, but also a very wearable collection.

I wish fashion was as important during my pregnancies as it is now.

How lucky all these women are!!!

..and he's admitted!

2008-08-27T23:29:00.002+02:00

august 27 2008

He went to his new college to get his identitycard and he was told he wouldn't get it.

So we got the call, heard him, told him we would jump in and did so.

A friendly woman told that she needed to receive a special paper from someone.
Then she could go ahead and send him all the paperwork and activate his identitycard.

One way or another the way she told it triggered the question where the paper should come from.

From someone in the room where she worked.

"Can't you go ahead when he tells you the paper is on it's way?
Or can't he hand you the paper?"

"No problem".

LOL!!!!!!!!

So our son is admitted and he'll be studying for shopkeeper.

We called him and he already got the list for the books.

A full 500 euro......

Isn't life interesting?

breastcancer screening

2008-08-26T23:58:00.002+02:00

august 26 2008

Today I went for breastcancer screening.

Women here are screened every two years with a mammogram.

This time it wasn't in a special mobile clinic, but in the local screening clinic.
It's new, I guess.

It was quite a problem to find the entrance.
They's better told me I had to be at the entrance of plastic surgery.

They had a new machine.
Ofcourse my breasts needed to be sandwiched, but it was not horizontal from the front, which was quite painful.
This time the machine followed the line of the muscle, so the experience was less awful.

I don't think that I'll have pain for weeks.

Because the whole neighbourhood was invited, I saw quite a lot familiar faces and we talked a bit.
With a husband of one of the women there the subject was soon: male breastcancer.

Because I've giving quite a lot of information about the subject in the past, I was asked to tell a bit about the subject.

They guy wasn't aware that men can get breastcancer too, and that many men who are confronted with it are diagnosed in a far too late stage.

He got the whole lot of information, and I'm sure he'll use it to enlighten other men.

So this afternoon wasn't a waste at all.

Back to school: double edition

2008-08-26T23:50:00.002+02:00

august 26 2008

The girls went to school again.

They were a bit nervous, but as soon as they were on their way they met one of the other girls.
And you know them.... talking and talking...

They've enjoyed themselves very much.
There was another girl added to the group who was very nice.
They played plenty of namegames and on the stairs the older pupils asked them hoe they liked the school.

So the first day was a success.

Tomorrow they're going to have a whole day full of gymnastics and games in the town gymnastic hall.
That's what they love!!

One of the boys went to school too.
He didn't know if he was admitted, but he was told to start anyway.

To his surprise he found quite a lot of kids he knows.

He has to get used to the new system of going to college now.
Thought he had a lazy life with 3 hours of lessons a day, untill I told him that he had to do the rest himself.

I said his former school didn't invest in preparing them for their future, now it turned out they don't even have the most basic knowledge. Ugh!!

Well, the rest I'll write tomorrow.
I'm going to sleep and try not to touch my face.
I have blisters on my cheeks...

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2008-08-26T23:47:00.003+02:00

august 26 2008

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strange tribune-car

2008-08-24T23:29:00.005+02:00

august 25 2008

I watched the marathon last night.
It's the only event I've stayed awake for.

Did they run fast!!!

I was amazed when I saw this:

I've never seen a thing like that.
You?

I've enjoyed the olympics a lot.
Ofcourse I haven't seen everything, but I'm sure we'll be able to see repeats enough the next weeks.

The closing ceremonie was nice, but not everything was enjoyed here.
Oh's and ah's about the London Mayor who didn't bother to close his jacket, and who walked even with his hands in his pocket.
Unbelievable!

Well, the games are over and tomorrow the athletes are expected home again.
I tried to get tickets for the welcoming party, but they were sold out.

I'm sure we'll find something else to do.

Early in the morning we'll leave by train and we'll go to what seems to be interesting.
I hope the weather will be good enough for a couple of hours at sea.

Keep your fingers crossed that I won't get a nasty surprise as last time when I made a daytrip with the children.

See you!

unconscious mutterings 291

2008-08-24T23:26:00.003+02:00

august 24 2008

Cry :: me a river

Stretch :: after warming up

Efficient :: beneficial

Brunch :: breakfast and lunch

Afro :: the beginning of all life

Preheat :: the oven...now I want cake!

Delicious :: yummy

Global warming :: snow from the mountains

Actions :: reactions

Ride :: drive

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Tai Chi

2008-08-23T11:14:00.004+02:00

august 23 2008

I'm so glad we didn't go to the sea yesterday.
It was the worst day of the week.

So all our stuff, including the swimsuits, is ready for monday.
It's the last day of the vacation and I can't imagine a better way to celebrate the last day than being at sea, cleaning my head for a fresh start.

I've decided to take a course tai chi.
Not inspired by the olympics, it was on my list for quite some years. But there wasn't a location near our house.
Now there is, so I'll be there within 5 minutes. No bridges to cross!

It's the first time I'll take a course at the women's centre.
I don't know anything about it, so I'm curious whether it's true that it's the perfect meetingplace to meet local women.

I think tai chi is a good way to get some relaxation and movement in the middle of the week, and to do something for myself.
Ofcourse I would love to get balletlessons again, but it's too far away.
Tai Chi can be done at all ages, so I'm looking forward to meeting new people and doing something that I can do the rest of my life.

autism and verbal behaviour

2008-08-22T15:27:00.004+02:00

august 22 2008

Some autistic children are not able to value communication and because of that they won't start talking.
I know about children who have been considered to be deaf, because they didn't react to sound at all.

Vincent Carbone offers workshops where he and his collegues provides parents, teachers and others evidence-based behavior analytic services.
That means that he teaches them to observe the children in a certain way and model their behaviour in a positive way to make them show wanted behaviour.

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Working this way is very rewarding for parents, because they are able to see changes better and they're able to modify the behaviour of their child in a positive way.
It can and should be done at the places the child is, and not in a therapy room.
That way the lack of ability to generalise behaviour isn't interfering with results.

bad weather

2008-08-22T15:10:00.002+02:00

august 22 2008

We decided not to go to the beach today.

My foot is still hurting a lot and the weather is nothing.
It's chilly and it rains a lot.

This afternoon ut was announced that watertornados were expected, right in the area we planned to go to.

So in a way I feel lucky.

Now we're going monday, when the weather will be better.
Let's hope my foot is OK too.

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2008-08-22T15:02:00.002+02:00

august 22 2008

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That was last year.

My former left neighbours went to Las Vegas because they wanted to be away from everyone. Especially the people they knew.
They wanted to act like they were rich and see how other people dealt with them.
They visisted one of the large shows and went to gable.

The hours passed and so did the glasses with cool liquid.
Then they won again and decided to call me.

I heard a slurry voice telling me there were so many friendly people and they really felt at home there.
Then I heard a familiar voice saying `give me the phone", and words like: "what are you doing here"?

To make a long story short: their neighbours were sitting next to them at the gambling table, enjoying themselves tremendously by watching our neighbours win over and over again, without noticing anyone.

They wish to escape from familiar people was not granted by fate. LOL!

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new school still on vacation

2008-08-22T14:35:00.004+02:00

august 22 2008

I can't believe people at administrations of schools are as uninterested as the woman we got on the phone yesterday.

Last sxhoolyear one of my sons got his diploma and he applied for a place at a school for economical studies.

Just before the schoolvacation we had a meeting with someone who wanted to know everything about his ADHD. What kind of adjustments he needs, what he can do well, etc etc.
So one assumes he's admitted.
When we asked he said we were right to think so.

Next week the school starts and we've heard nothing at all.

So we've phones around.. none from the economical department is back from vacation, so we have to wait untill monday.

The son himself doesn't care.
He went to his girlfriend and left us to call around and arrange matters.

Let's say he got me really mad!